iheart Blog

The illusion could not be more prevalent. It is in our love poetry, on our football pitches, it’s in the teddy-bear we’ve had since before we could walk. It’s under the bed at night, in every embarrassing memory, every worst-case scenario, the run you cannot go without, the dress you have to buy. It’s in our fear of lateness, of ill health, of disaster, decimation, spiders, responsibility, you name it. It’s in the excitement for your birthday gifts, dependence on your partner, relief at the good weather. It’s in our quest for “positive thinking” and deep-seated fear of being unhappy.

Recently I have been reflecting on a strong inner desire that I witness – not only in myself, but also in my friends and family. The desire to ‘make it better’ or ‘fix it’ for the people we care about. There’s my mother with her 90-year-old sister in California who is gradually losing her mental capacity: My aunt phones my mum to ‘off load’ telling her how horrible life is and how she wishes she could just not wake up tomorrow. When my mum puts the phone down, she is full of angst and big feelings that she finds hard to manage. There’s my friend whose daughter is struggling with an eating disorder.

The iheart family is so terribly saddened to share the heart-breaking news that after battling her illness so bravely for so long, Shoshanah Kahan passed away this past Friday night, surrounded by her beloved and adoring family. Shoshanah leaves us at the far too young age of 54. Shosh, as she was fondly known, was a dear friend to so many of us – a wonderful colleague, a brilliant teacher, and above all, a remarkable human being. She had countless friends, students and people – young and old – whom she supported, influenced, cared for, taught, mentored, and for whom she did extraordinary acts of kindness.